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A suspicious rise of new blogs reblogging a few posts then suddenly they need financial aid and sending out lots of asks even to people who are not financially stable enough to help.
Check how old a blog is if they send you an ask. Check how many posts they have. Look to see if they’ve updated their donation post or have posted updates about their situation. Look for clear communications.
A friendly reminder to not let your kindness make you lose money if someone’s pretending they need help. It’s unfortunate, but some may not be sincere. However, you will find those who are being genuine and keep updates when possible.
Buffalo Community Fridges has a Target Registry. the get involved page says they prefer physical donations of unexpired food over monetary donations, but if youre like me and not anywhere near buffalo, you can help with this.
they need things like tampons, water, and deoderant, and soap, but also lots of tea/coffee and spices
Can we leave tips for natural hair? Reblog with a tip and help others!
Never detangle when is dry and always us a wide tooth comb. Always treat your hair as if it was your baby.
Cantu shea butter is a great leave in conditioner 🙏🏾
Avocado oil is really good for finger detangling and moisturizing (not just your hair but scalp too) it absorbs easily, it’s not as clogging as coconut oil, and it doesn’t leave a smell.
hot oil treatments!! never dry hair with a towel (use a soft t-shirt) and sleep on a silk pillow case or use a silk scarf and tie it on your pillow. cotton pillow cases absorb the natural oils in your hair and dries your hair out which can make it very frizzy. same with towels!
Yes! Hot oil treatments are amazing. Use Jamaican black castor oil for thin area 🙏🏾
take out twists/braids/bantu knots outs when COMPLETELY dry for best results
if your twists take too long to dry:
1.Squeeze them gentle with a COTTON TSHIRT to soak up excess product
2.Instead of wearing a scarf go to sleep on a satin pillow to allow air flow to dry them faster.
1) Eco styler is the best gel to lay down edges
2) After taking out your protective style and while your washing your hair, you will notice A LOT of shedding, it’s just the hair that wasn’t able to shed freely while you had in your protective styling
3) Eco Styler+Hard Brush+Bandana+Toothbrush= fleeky edges.
1) Take a good but not odee amount of gel and put on edges
2) Brush your edges a little back and curve them a little while brushing(you can use the toothbrush for the curving part)
3) Tie bandana around edges tightly(not too tight) and push the bandana back a little and take the toothbrush and take a little of the hair and brush them in the direction of your forehead or cheeks
4) Leave the bandana on for 30+ minutes
5) Take off bandana and touch up your edges with toothbrush (this is an option not mandatory)
Stretching 4b/c hair(Still works for just 4b hair type)
1) Part hair into four sections
2) Spray Hair lightly and put in your usual leave in product (ex; sheamoisture, cantu ect.)
3) Take one of the four sectioned hair and put it in a scrunchy
4) Take the hair in the scrunchy and braid it
5) Repeat this for every section of hair
6) Let hair air dry for a little bit and then wrap hair
7) For extra stretching put hair in cornrows
Use Aunt Jackie’s “Don’t Shrink Flaxseed Elongating Curling Gel” for good twist outs
Really don’t detangle your hair while dry. Don’t. And resist the random urges to trim your ends. Using coconut oil first and then sealing with shea moisture deep conditioner keeps my hair really soft. Don’t be afraid to use deep conditioners frequently or as leave in moisturizers. Be as gentle as possible when handling your curls. Wearing a satin scarf around your edge area for a while right before you’re ready to leave keeps them laid down. Don’t wash your hair with shampoo too frequently. (I have type 3c curls). If you hear ripping noises, stop lmao.
Shea moisture, cantu, creme of nature raw coconut oil works wonders for dry 4a curls 🙏🏾
Applying your conditioner on your wet hair BEFORE detangling makes detangling so much easier. If you wash or cowash your hair in the shower and apply your conditioner in the shower, run cold water through your hair. It’ll seal all the product/moisture in your hair. Bantu Knot Tip: don’t attempt it on wet hair unless you have days to let it dry. Do it on lightly damp hair. The results turn out more defined and less puffy/frizzy (especially for 4a/4b hair like mine) Trimming ends on a regular basis/schedule is NOT necessary! Trim ONLY when you see split ends, damage, single strand knots, etc. And ALWAYS USE HAIR CUTTING SCISSORS ONLY!
If any naturalistas want to take a different approach on washing your hair with shampoo, and doesn’t feel all that clean with Co-washing; you can use BENTONITE CALCIUM CLAY. It’s a natural clay. It’s also conditions as well as cleanse the scalp and shafts. On top of that, it stimulates the scalp, so it may help with thinner areas. With time at least.. I’ve done it and once I find the time, I’ll do it on a regular basis. You can go on google and search where to buy. Another plus is that: originally it’s a face mask and you can exfoliate your skin with it as well.
Had to re-reblog for that comment ^^ Bentonite clay saves my hair on the regular
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Yaaaasss! bentonite clay works wonders. And for those dealing with psoriasis/seborrhea dermatitis on the scalp it helps. As well as using ACV rinses and mixing honey and oils I to your deep conditioner. Honey, ACV &bentonite clay all work as either anti microbial sand to remove dirt.
Also, if you’re having a flare up DO NOT oil your scalp with heavy oils. I’ve found that it inxeases itching and makes flare ups so much worse (the flakes, the irritation will make you wanna rip your hair out). I’ve been playing around with a spritz that contains: rose water, jojoba oil, tea tree oil, and a drop of Jamaican black castor oil (mixed all this with water). Sprayed it on my scalp and hair and its help reduce gah flakiness and itchiness almost immediately. I use it everyday. Try to wash your hair regularly, and water washing can be beneficial (but I’ll do it like every other week between co-washes)
I’m currently trying to grow my edges back after a recent flare up of my dermatitis. I’ve been misting with my spritz and putting Jamaican black castor oil on my edges and I’ve seen progress and no irritation/flakes!
Also, have fun with your hair. It’s unique and special, and it’s on your head so love it!
Generally when buying/using products for your hair, you want it to be as organic as possible. If you can’t read it, you probably dont want it in your hair.. And if you’re really really going organic.. If you can’t eat it you probably don’t want it in your hair. The more natural stuff usually works better anyways. The less chemicals the better.
Also it’s good to deep condition at least once every few months. I usually use a DIY deep conditioner. I just mix
Conditioner of your choice (I do mane & tail) Honey Eggs Mayo (optional) Coconut oil And sometimes Tea tree oil if I have it
If you live in a dry area (like any desert area in California) don’t use humectants like honey or glycerin. They’ll actually take moisture OUT of your hair. Basically if water isn’t one of the first three ingredients in what you’re using, toss it.
Aloe vera juice before you condition. It’s amazing for your scalp and hair.
Having more than one curl pattern on your head is totally natural. Most of my hair is a 4a/4b but I have a loose 3c pattern at the crown. Also, sometimes super all natural products don’t work on your hair. Don’t be ashamed to use drugstore conditioners with silicones. Especially if your hair tangles really easily. We need a lot of “slip” and often a lot of product to properly detangle and tbh the best conditioner I ever found for that was herbal essences. It’s cheap, comes in huge bottles and I’ve never felt guilty for needing to use half a container to get all the knots out of my hair.
It’s going to take about a year for your hair to loc.
most people in the natural hair mags are wearing falls/extensions
DO NOT PUT WAX IN YOUR LOCS. EVER
you can get a inflatable bonnet attachment for your hair dryer that will do the job at about 5-10 dollars.
clarifying shampoo or shampoo for colored hair is great for locs
avoid creams and butters for your locs. the build up is ridiculous
Loc bombs and detoxes are harsh on hair. Really only needed if your hair is full of build up. If you dont have bad build up, washing your locs with Dawn once a year or so will get them squeaky clean.
Follow that with a conditioner and you’re good to go.
Cantu is bad
I’ve heard mixed things about ecostyler for edges. But do what works for you.
Idk if this was just for women or not, but if it ain’t…ACV and Aloe vera mixture in a spray bottle on wash day if you have a very dry, flaky scalp.
Brothas, you MUST condition your beard! It’s not optional at all!
Detangling starts at the end and works to the scalp, not the other way around.
“Beard oil” is not enough by itself. You need a balm too if you wanna have the best beard you can grow. If you don’t have the Shea butter/coconut oil combo in your mixture, your beard is not soft for real. Trust me
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